my mother/myself

Reposting this for mothers day. Cheers to all moms and everyone who’s had a mother!

girl in the hat


Conversation after my mother read my first novel:

Me: So, what did you think?
Mom: I don’t like the mother. She made me feel bad.
Me: Not all mothers are you, mom.
Mom: I hope not. The mothers in your stories are always a bit rough around the edges.
Me: Did it ever occur to you that I’m a mother, too? The mother in my story could be me, right?
Mom: I guess so.
(…loaded silence…)
Me: All my characters are reflections of me, mom. The young men, the old women, the antagonists, the side characters, they’re all me. Me, me, me.
Mom: If you say so.
(a few days later, on the phone)
Me: Okay then. The mothers are you and me and all mothers mixed together. It’s a subconscious thing, archetypes that keep crawling in from my dreams. I can’t help it. Okay?
Mom: Okay, I think I…

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About Anna Fonté

Girl in the Hat, aka Anna Fonté, is an author who writes about invisibility, outsider status, everyday monsters, and her attempts to befriend the neighborhood crows. The things she writes want you to look at them.


  1. aubrey

    Motherhood is such a marvelous and vast subject that it can’t help but embrace all people, all things, all subjects, all countries. It’s difficult to describe; even though at some point we have all had mothers and even though some of us are mothers – motherhood sometimes defies a proper illustration.

    I loved your original post – rich in metaphor and fearless thoughts.

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